We are doing ok. So far so good. Irwin's sister is a big help. She and I have had wonderful long conversations about Irwin and we enjoy each other’s stories since she came to visit.
This morning we designed an announcement card and a thank you card. It has been very emotional because we were thinking about what to do best. We wanted to add a famous quote to the announcement card. And that turned into a long search for the perfect one, of course.
We started out with Albert Einstein, because Irwin and Albert share the same birthday and Irwin was also a brainy. Here is what we looked at:
If you can't explain it simply, you don't understand it well enough.
It's not that I'm so smart; it's just that I stay with problems longer.
Joy in looking and comprehending is nature's most beautiful gift.
Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The important thing is not to stop questioning.
Look deep into nature, and then you will understand everything better.
Not everything that can be counted counts and not everything that counts can be counted.
Once we accept our limits, we go beyond them.
Our task must be to free ourselves by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature and its beauty.
Then we started looking at quotes from Groucho Marx because he was Irwin's favorite comedian.
Either he's dead or my watch has stopped. (from A Day at the Races (1937))
Outside of a dog, a book is a man's best friend. Inside of a dog, it's too dark to read.
Well, art is art, isn't it? Still, on the other hand, water is water! And east is east and west is west and if you take cranberries and stew them like applesauce they taste much more like prunes than rhubarb does. Now, uh... Now you tell me what you know.
But in the end we didn't use any of them. Irwin would have thought that it would be hilarious to have one those quotes on his card, but we figured they were not really appropriate for a death announcement.
Finally I found a really lovely quote that referred to a jigsaw puzzle. You might remember that Irwin collected jigsaw puzzles and his collection is gigantic - over 8,000 different puzzles.
I wonder when I can face our basement and think about what to do with his puzzles. Besides the puzzles he also owns a big collection of books and matchbox cars. Well, that is not for now but eventually I will have to think about it.
This afternoon we went to the funeral home and picked Irwin's remains up. That was probably the most bizarre situation in my life so far, especially because the guys at the funeral home were kind of creepy. My SIL's husband carried the box outside - I just couldn't. He is a really sweet guy and very comforting for me to have around with my SIL.
It is more final now – when you have a piece of paper in your hand that states that your husband is now in a box in front of you. I think it is good for me to have such a clear picture because I kept thinking that Irwin would just show up and everything would go back to normal.
The last time I saw him was at the Munich airport when he came to visit me in May. He went through the security area and up the stairs and waived at me. I stayed until I didn’t see him anymore. You wonder why you do these things.
The puppies enjoy the extra hands for petting. I told them that will probably stop once the visitors from Vermont go home.


It is good for me to see the happy dogs playing around in the backyard.
Comments (9)
I'm so glad you have those happy puppy dog faces to keep you company.
Hang in there Sweetie
Posted by MX | June 27, 2008 5:23 PM
Posted on June 27, 2008 17:23
Claudia,
Your strength is an inspiration. I know that this is hard beyond words, but I also know that you will be okay, eventually.
Love you.
Shari
Posted by Shari | June 27, 2008 5:57 PM
Posted on June 27, 2008 17:57
Today's virtual hug. Many warm wishes and thoughts for you and the fiber dogs.
All of us Atlanta folks are here.
When you're ready. Much love.
Posted by Katey | June 27, 2008 6:32 PM
Posted on June 27, 2008 18:32
Thinking of you and holding you in the light. After the family leaves, don't be afraid to call on your friends when you need them.
Thanks for continuing to let us know how you are doing on the blog.
Michele
Posted by Michele | June 27, 2008 8:07 PM
Posted on June 27, 2008 20:07
I hope this isn't too weird. It's about a dog instead of a person, but I've learned some of my best lessons re death by dealing with pets.
When our very much loved Aussie Sasha died suddenly and unexpectedly, we were shattered. We had her cremated. When I went to pick her up, I set her remains in the seat beside me where she always wanted to be. And I talked to her, and told her that I loved her and missed her.
Her ashes will be scattered with mine when I'm gone.
So do whatever you need to right now. Talk or don't talk, work or don't work. Follow your instincts and take care of yourself.
{{{hugs}}}
Posted by Janice in GA | June 27, 2008 8:33 PM
Posted on June 27, 2008 20:33
All of those quotes are wonderful, but I think you did pick the best one.
Love, Diana
Posted by Diana T | June 28, 2008 12:02 AM
Posted on June 28, 2008 00:02
Claudia,
My heart goes out to you. You have my thoughts, my prayers and my best wishes. Your strength is simply amazing.
With heartfelt regards,
T.
Posted by mistyk/tareshen | June 28, 2008 5:18 AM
Posted on June 28, 2008 05:18
I just wanted to say that we are thinking of you and sending you our thoughts and prayers and love.
-t
Posted by tulip | June 28, 2008 1:42 PM
Posted on June 28, 2008 13:42
I just found you through another blog that I read regularly, and want to tell you that you are in my thoughts and prayers. I can't imagine what you must be going through, but you are handling everything with such grace. I will be thinking of you often, and will hug my husband extra hard tonight. I pray that you have all of the help, love and comfort that you need, for as long as you need it.
Posted by Mandy | June 28, 2008 4:05 PM
Posted on June 28, 2008 16:05